“Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones,
as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.” – Francois de La Rouchefoucauld
I think this is one of the reasons so many people get to the middle of life and feel unsatisfied, disillusioned, restless . . . as if something is missing. Because something is missing.
We tend to learn to put our passions aside. We learn to quiet them, to ignore them.
And for those “mediocre” interests, the ones that may have caught our interest, but haven’t come from the soul, this absence does seem to diminish them.
For those passions that are part of who we are, however, the going without, the denial, actually fans the fire consuming us sometimes from within.